An embrace for Lady Grey (5)

I believe the answer is:

ashen

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'grey' is the definition.
(I know that ashen is a type of grey)

'an embrace for lady' is the wordplay.
'embrace' indicates putting letters inside.
'for lady' becomes 'she' (I am not sure about this - if you are sure you should give a lot more credence to this answer).
'an' going around 'she' is 'ASHEN'.

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(Other definitions for ashen that I've seen before include "lacking in colour" , "Like bird" , "Wan - wooden - pallid" , "pale in colour" , "Very pale, with shock or fear" .)

I've seen this clue in The Guardian, The Globe and Mail and The Telegraph.

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