Appropriate children disagree (4,5)
I believe the answer is:
take issue
'disagree' is the definition.
(synonyms)
'appropriate children' is the wordplay.
'appropriate' becomes 'take' (appropriate can mean to steal).
'children' becomes 'issue' (issue can mean someone's offspring).
'take'+'issue'='TAKE ISSUE'
(Other definitions for take issue that I've seen before include "Don't agree" , "to bring the children along" , "Object" , "Argue" , "challenge" .)