Badly mistaking family being removed as something shameful (6)
I believe the answer is:
stigma
If this is the answer, I'm afraid I cannot explain it.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for stigma that I've seen before include "Mark of dishonour" , "Mark of infamy or disgrace" , "Badge of shame" , "Part of a flower" , "part of plant" .)