Calm son had extra tuition externally (10)
I believe the answer is:
restrained
'calm' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
I can't explain the rest of the clue.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for restrained that I've seen before include "Checked" , "muted" , "Reserved, dispassionate" , "Being limited" , "Calm" .)