Can't stand gong in calm houses (9)
I believe the answer is:
abominate
'can't stand' is the definition.
(to abominate is to hate or be unable to stand)
'gong in calm houses' is the wordplay.
'gong' becomes 'OM' (Order of Merit, an award or gong).
'calm' becomes 'abate' (to abate is to calm down or subside).
'houses' indicates putting letters inside.
'om'+'in'='omin'
'omin' inserted within 'abate' is 'ABOMINATE'.
(Other definitions for abominate that I've seen before include "Amoeba nit - easy to loathe" , "Dislike deeply" , "Regard with disgust" , "Loathe, detest" , "Loathe, find hateful" .)