Date with old female I persuade to make a special effort (2,3,2,4,3)
I believe the answer is:
go out of ones way
'make a special effort' is the definition.
(undertake some additional or inconvenient effort)
'date with old female i persuade' is the wordplay.
'date' becomes 'go out' (to date someone is to go out with them).
'with' means one lot of letters go next to another.
'old female' becomes 'of' (this might be a standard abbreviation which I don't know about).
'i' becomes 'one' (Roman numeral for one).
'persuade' becomes 'sway' (synonyms).
'goout'+'of'+'one'+'sway'='GO OUT OF ONES WAY'
'to' is the link.
(Other definitions for go out of ones way that I've seen before include "Make extra special effort" , "Get lost!" , "Show extra consideration" , "Make a special effort (2,3,2,4,3)" , "Make a great effort" .)