Despondent when making ladies say stuff to get award (6)
I believe the answer is:
grammy
'award' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
'despondent when making ladies say stuff' is the wordplay.
I cannot really understand how this works, but
'stuff' could be 'ram' (ram can mean to stuff or push) and 'ram' is present in the answer.
This explanation may well be incorrect...
'to get' is the link.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for grammy that I've seen before include "US recording industry equivalent of an Oscar" , "Record industry award" , "Award for CD" , "National Academy of Recording Arts and Sciences award" , "Annual award in the US for the music industry." .)