Extremely genteel, loving, stylish and alluring (9)
I believe the answer is:
glamorous
'alluring' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
'extremely genteel loving' is the wordplay.
'extremely' suggests removing the centre (extreme, outside letters only).
'loving' becomes 'amorous' (similar in meaning).
'genteel' with its middle taken out is 'gl'.
'gl'+'amorous'='GLAMOROUS'
'stylish and' acts as a link.
I am not very happy about this link. Some or all of it may belong to another bit of the clue.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for glamorous that I've seen before include "Excitingly attractive" , "Sophisticated and stylish" , "Alluringly appealing" , "Smart; glittering" , "Alluring" .)