Fellow shows agitation, losing women’s cutlery (5)
I believe the answer is:
forks
'cutlery' is the definition.
(I know that forks is a type of cutlery)
'fellow shows agitation losing women's' is the wordplay.
'fellow' becomes 'F' (abbreviation - of a society etc.).
'shows agitation' becomes 'works' (as in getting worked up).
'losing' indicates named letters should be taken away.
'women' becomes 'w'.
'works' with 'w' removed is 'orks'.
'f'+'orks'='FORKS'
(Other definitions for forks that I've seen before include "shed tools" , "attacks two men at same time?" .)