In a bicoastal relationship, say (5)

I believe the answer is:

apart

(Other definitions for apart that I've seen before include "No longer living together" , "out on a limb?" , "Separate in a trap" , "Divided" , "cut off from others" .)

I've seen this clue in The New York Times.

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