Join in silence, initially (4)
I believe the answer is:
knot
'join' is the definition.
(thesaurus)
I don't understand how the rest of the clue works.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for knot that I've seen before include "Shorebird's" , "Tie cord - lump in timber" , "Nautical measure" , "Sort of garden" , "Tight interlacing of cord, string etc" .)