Like you or me - but not him, real gent under pressure (6-7)

I believe the answer is:

gender-neutral

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'like' is the definition.
Both the definition and answer are adjectives.
Maybe there's a link between them I don't understand?

'you or me but not him real gent under pressure' is the wordplay.
'real gent under' anagrams to 'GENDER NEUTRAL'.
However, I'm not sure how the anagram is indicated.

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I've seen this clue in the Sydney Morning Herald.

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