Lose one's temper with a fellow in women's clothing (4,1,4)
I believe the answer is:
blow a fuse
'lose one's temper' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
'with a fellow in women's clothing' is the wordplay.
'with' becomes 'w' (short for with).
'fellow' becomes 'F' (abbreviation - of a society etc.).
'in' is an insertion indicator.
'women's clothing' becomes 'blouse' (I can't explain this - if you can you should believe this answer much more).
'w'+'a'+'f'='waf'
'waf' placed within 'blouse' is 'BLOW A FUSE'.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for blow a fuse that I've seen before include "See red" , "Get very irate" , "Explode with anger" , "Lose one's temper (informal)" , "Hit the roof" .)