Miss daughter born first (4)
I believe the answer is:
need
'miss' is the definition.
(thesaurus)
'daughter born first' is the wordplay.
'daughter' becomes 'd'.
'born' becomes 'nee' (I've seen this before).
'first' is a charade indicator (letters next to each other).
'd' after 'nee' is 'NEED'.
(Other definitions for need that I've seen before include "Want - require(ment)" , "destitute state" , "''A friend in .... is a friend indeed''" , "state of distress" , "'miss'" .)