One gets excited, turned on slowly after husband gives massage (10)
I believe the answer is:
manipulate
'massage' is the definition.
(thesaurus)
'one gets excited turned on slowly after husband' is the wordplay.
I cannot quite see how this works, but
'one' could be 'an' (I've seen this in other clues) and 'an' is found in the answer.
'on' could be 'at' (I've seen this in other clues) and 'at' is found within the answer.
This explanation may well be incorrect...
'gives' is the link.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for manipulate that I've seen before include "Use" , "Doctor" , "Handle, manoeuvre" , "Influence someone deviously" .)