Ordered around older order and middle order (6)

'ordered' is the definition.
The answer and definition can be both to do with social activities as well as being past participle verbs.
Perhaps there's a link between them I don't understand?

'older order and middle order' is the wordplay.
'order' is an anagram indicator.
'and' means one lot of letters go next to another.
'middle' means to look at the middle letters.
The central letter of 'order' is 'd'.
'older' anagrammed gives 'lorde'.
'lorde'+'d'='LORDED'

'around' is the link.

Can you help me to learn more?