Quarrel started by daughter, in essence (5)
I believe the answer is:
drift
'essence' is the definition.
(thesaurus)
'quarrel started by daughter' is the wordplay.
'quarrel' becomes 'rift' (I've seen this in other clues).
'started by' says to put letters next to each other.
'daughter' becomes 'd'.
'rift' after 'd' is 'DRIFT'.
'in' acts as a link.
(Other definitions for drift that I've seen before include "Implication of what's been said" , "wander from place to place" , "Import" , "General idea (of snow?)" , "Travel without purpose" .)