Regretted sounding rude (4)
I believe the answer is:
rued
'regretted' is the definition.
('rue' can be a synonym of 'regret')
'sounding rude' is the wordplay.
'sounding' shows a homophone (sound like).
'rude' is a homophone of 'RUED'.
(Other definitions for rued that I've seen before include "'Regretted, repented (4)'" , "Was contrite about" , "Was sorry" , "Bitterly regretted" , "was remorseful" .)