Rude gobbling starter: slow down? (9)
I believe the answer is:
graceless
'rude' is the definition.
(thesaurus)
I don't understand how the rest of the clue works.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for graceless that I've seen before include "clumsy" , "Lacking elegance" , "Awkward" , "Indecorous" .)