She comes out extremely demure yet absurdly neat
I believe the answer is:
debutante
'she comes out' is the definition.
I can't tell whether this definition defines the answer.
'extremely demure yet absurdly neat' is the wordplay.
'extremely' means to remove the middle letters (only the extremes of the word are used).
'yet' becomes 'but' (synonyms).
'absurdly' indicates an anagram (I've seen this in other clues).
'demure' with its middle removed is 'de'.
'neat' anagrammed gives 'ante'.
'de'+'but'+'ante'='DEBUTANTE'
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for debutante that I've seen before include "young lady coming out" , "socialite" , "eligible young lady?" , "Young lady making her first appearance in society" , "Maiden speaker" .)