Stinging insult? (4,2,3,4)
I believe the answer is:
slap in the face
'insult?' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
I can't explain the rest of the clue.
(Other definitions for slap in the face that I've seen before include "the result of stupidly eating pancake?" , "Unexpected affront" , "Unexpected rejection" , "Insult" .)