Title for Jackie or Jill, and a hint to the answers to the starred clues (5,4)

I believe the answer is:

first lady

(Other definitions for first lady that I've seen before include "Formerly, Jackie Kennedy for example" , "top partner" , "Michelle Obama, for example" , "Barbara Bush or Michelle Obama?" , "Nancy, Barbara, Hillary or Laura?" .)

I've seen this clue in The New York Times.

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