Told to be independent? No (7)
I believe the answer is:
related
'told' is the definition.
(as in relating a story)
'be independent? no' is the wordplay.
'be' becomes 'relate' (relating is a kind of being).
'independent? no' becomes 'd' (I can't justify this - if you can you should believe this answer much more).
'relate'+'d'='RELATED'
'to' is the link.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for related that I've seen before include "Agnate" , "Connected by blood or marriage" , "As siblings obviously are" , "Connected, by kinship say" , "Kindred" .)