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Usual male in charge beginning to doubt (10)

Ross

I believe the answer is:

accustomed

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'usual' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)

'male in charge beginning to doubt' is the wordplay.
I cannot quite see how this works, but
'male' could be 'tom' (tom can mean a male cat) and 'tom' is present in the answer.
'charge' could be 'accuse' (charge in court) and 'accuse' is located in the remaining letters.
A single letter 'd' remains which might be clued in a way I don't understand.
This explanation may well be incorrect...

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(Other definitions for accustomed that I've seen before include "familiar" , "Used to" , "usual" .)

I've seen this clue in The Telegraph.
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