Want new date turning up over lunch with present essentially (9)
I believe the answer is:
neediness
'want' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
I don't understand how the remainder of the clue works.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for neediness that I've seen before include "Want" , "Insecurity" , "Poverty" , "Destitution" , "Wanting state" .)