Refined woman you are fond of (8)
I believe the answer is:
ladylike
'refined' is the definition.
(similar in meaning)
'woman you are fond of' is the wordplay.
'woman you' becomes 'lady' (I can't explain this - if you can you should give a lot more credence to this answer).
'are fond of' becomes 'like' (I've seen this in another clue).
'lady'+'like'='LADYLIKE'
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for ladylike that I've seen before include "Decorously feminine" , "In manner of genteel or titled woman" , "Appropriate to female decorum" , "Of a woman, refined and genteel" , "Refined and fastidious" .)