Either way it's a mode of address (5)
I believe the answer is:
madam
'either way' is the definition.
I don't understand the rest of the clue.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for madam that I've seen before include "formidable woman" , "Stuck-up girl" , "Woman with status - girl with bad manners" , "Woman running a brothel" , "Palindrome used in speaking politely to a woman" .)