Gave to others and did without oneself (9)
I believe the answer is:
dispensed
'gave' is the definition.
(dispensing is a kind of giving)
'did without oneself' is the wordplay.
'without' is an insertion indicator ('without' can be similar in meaning to 'outside').
'oneself' becomes 'spense' (I can't justify this - if you can you should believe this answer much more).
'did' going around 'spense' is 'DISPENSED'.
'to others and' is the link.
This may not be right. Some or all of it may be part of another bit of the clue.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Another definition for dispensed that I've seen is " Gave out medicines".)