Like a couple suffering together in bohemian state, distraught (2,3,4,4)
I believe the answer is:
in the same boat
'like a couple suffering together' is the definition.
I know nothing about this answer so I can't tell whether it can be defined by this definition.
'bohemian state distraught' is the wordplay.
'distraught' indicates an anagram (an unsettled or upset order of the letters).
'bohemian'+'state'='bohemianstate'
'bohemianstate' anagrammed gives 'IN THE SAME BOAT'.
'in' is the link.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for in the same boat that I've seen before include "Cat and owl were" , "Suffering similar circumstances" , "Equally badly placed" , "Suffering identical circumstances" , "Similarly up a gum tree?" .)