Quiet and gentile quality (8)

I believe the answer is:

meekness

(Other definitions for meekness that I've seen before include "Deference" , "Modesty, humility" , "Submissive quality" , "Formally inform" , "Submissive humility" .)

I've seen this clue in The Times.

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