Record in the past rather oddly getting daughter upset (12)
I believe the answer is:
disconcerted
'upset' is the definition.
(thesaurus)
'record in the past rather oddly getting daughter' is the wordplay.
'record' becomes 'disc' ('disc' can be a synonym of 'record'**).
'in the past' becomes 'once' (I've seen this before).
'oddly' means one should take alternating letters.
'getting' is a charade indicator (letters next to each other).
'daughter' becomes 'd'.
The alternating letters of 'rather' are 'rte'.
'disc'+'once'+'rte'+'d'='DISCONCERTED'
(Other definitions for disconcerted that I've seen before include "Unsettled" , "Disturbed the composure of" , "Second credit (anag) - thrown" , "All shook up"" .)