Strange date sadly got turned away (9)
I believe the answer is:
alienated
'turned away' is the definition.
'strange date sadly' is the wordplay.
'strange' becomes 'alien' (synonyms).
'sadly' is an anagram indicator.
'date' anagrammed gives 'ated'.
'alien'+'ated'='ALIENATED'
'got' is the link.
(Other definitions for alienated that I've seen before include "disaffected" , "put off" , "divorced" , "Estranged" , "Date Liane (anag.)" .)